Comments on: Credit Where It’s Due

By: Book Review – How To Be Rich and Happy | Start Being Your Best

Book Review – How To Be Rich and Happy | Start Being Your Best — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 12:07:49 +0000

[...] fan of personal development books. So, when I heard that Life Coach Tim Brownson (who I’ve featured on this blog previously) was co-authoring a book called How To Be Rich and Happy, I was excited to read it. I don’t [...]

By: Henry

Henry — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 23:37:48 +0000

I can very much relate to this post, having been brought up by a mom who was so insecure that she was obsessed with what visitors thought about our house, the clothes she, Dad, and I wore, and what grades I got in school because she couldn't brag about me to the rest of the family if they were too low. I think his post relates directly to your Life Design Series in that defining your personal values and then moving towards goals that embody those values is all the affirmation you need. I forget that constantly and it's certainly easier for me to tell folks to ignore others' apathy towards their hard work than it is for me to be OK with apathy regarding MY work, but this post was a useful reminder to do just that and to focus on larger personal goals.

By: Leszek Cyfer

Leszek Cyfer — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 06:56:00 +0000

It's true about being an approval junkie – my weak side I admit.
What good can be distilled from it? I think that's a good "weakness" to admit at a job interview when asked specifically to list your weaknesses – like: "I crave approval, and I work hard to get it – it wears me down sometimes though".

I think that instead of fighting it, one can sublime it – set a standard to adhere to, and each time you achieve it, say aloud "I'm proud of myself ". Any other signs of approval from people around you will be just an added bonus, and unnecessary for you to feel good about yourself.

One powerful thing about receiving praise is to praise them back – prepare in advance and have sth to praise about everyone – when they praise you for sth you've done, just say "Thank you. You too did an awesome job with the (… ) last week" – it is even better if you can thank them for any help they gave you with your work that led to the object of praise – "Thank you – I appreciate very much your advice about (…) – it really helped me".

This way you're even and not attached to their praise – it doesn't control you…

By: Kevin Schultz

Kevin Schultz — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 22:07:36 +0000

Great story Jason. I've gone through this…as long as I know I've done a killer job, I still have pride in my work and just tell myself that the unappreciative people are stupid. But appreciation is always gravy (unless you're a robot…which is how some corporations make you feel). Usually in corporations, the small fish are WAY smarter and real than the suits anyway. Here's some affirmation for you…you kick major ass, you are one of my heroes.

By: Jason D Barr

Jason D Barr — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 14:29:28 +0000

Very true. "Do unto others", right?

By: Viewtiful_Justin

Viewtiful_Justin — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 14:27:40 +0000

Not being recognized is a way of life for me… at least at work. And I, like you, am sort of an approval junkie. If I don't get approval, it feels like wasted effort. Maybe that's why I blog…

By: Js Dixon

Js Dixon — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 14:01:24 +0000

See I actually don't see a problem with wanting to hear a compliment, instead I use this as a reminder to compliment others every chance I get. I know it can make a huge difference for me.