I was reading some announcements about the retirement of Randy Johnson today. For those of you who don’t know, Randy Johnson is at least in the conversation, if not the front-runner, for the greatest left handed pitcher of all time in baseball. Don’t worry, this isn’t a baseball post.
One of the reactions I read was from a writer by the name of Jeff Pearlman. I used to read Pearlman consistently, but this post shows why I stopped. It’s whiny and condescending, and blames another person just for being who they are. The complaint isn’t germane to Johnson retiring and seems needlessly petty and confrontational. Pearlman does this a lot.
Was Johnson a jerk on the days he pitched? From everything I’ve heard, he definitely could be. Does that really matter? Nope. Why did Pearlman feel like he needed to say this? I have no idea.
I see a lot of people (and I’ve been guilty of it myself) who will deflect blame onto someone else, even when there really isn’t any blame to be had. Be it through petty sniping behind someone’s back, passive-aggressive statements toward people we don’t enjoy being around, or through some other means, criticism and complaining doesn’t solve any problems. It may make you feel better, but it’s not going to make anything actually be better.
Harry Truman had a sign on his desk saying, “The Buck Stops Here”. This statement has become almost ubiquitous in our society, but the actual meaning is often ignored.
You, and I, and everyone else we come into contact with is responsible for one thing, and one thing only: our response to circumstances. We can’t control how other’s act, or what Life dumps in our paths. What we can control is how we react to it. We can handle things with dignity and grace, and rise above the mud, or we can wallow in it with the other pigs. It’s as simple as that.
When we react defensively, or out of spite or envy toward someone else, we’re really showing how little we trust ourselves to be able to solve our own problems. We demonstrate that we have no faith in being able to rise above, that we’re content to be mired in our situations, and that we don’t have the initiative or drive to solve a problem ourselves (or find someone who can provide support in doing so).
Take charge of your own life by refusing to allow negative circumstances to turn you into a whiner. Don’t be Jeff Pearlman. Be Harry Truman.
Photo courtesy: The Harry S. Truman Library and Museum
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One of the early topics I was planning to cover on this blog was the matter of creativity. Because I felt like such a frustrated creative myself, I wanted to do a study of different ways of expressing one’s self; perhaps so that I could find an outlet I hadn’t previously considered for myself beyond the typical poetry, painting, short stories, etc. Not that there’s anything wrong with those pursuits; I just don’t happen to be very talented in any of them.
Of course, I ended up writing a lot more about leadership and general self-improvement topics, and haven’t really dealt too much with creativity specifically since the very early days of Start Being Your Best.
However, I still believe that developing one’s creativity is a great method of self-improvement. I would suggest it to anyone.
I like to think of this blog as “creative non-fiction”. Although I’m not creating in the sense of “world-building” for a novel, or translating my sensations from viewing a sunrise into a piece of music, I still see what I do as an act of creation. I bring up a topic and address it in a way that is (hopefully) novel and (again, hopefully) meaningful to other people as well as myself.
In the course of reading about the creative process, I came upon a work by a professor named Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. I’m sure you’ve heard of one of his works, Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience
. In it, he gives a synopsis of the state talented people find themselves in when working in their area of expertise. Athletes call it being “in the zone”.
As a follow up to this work, he wrote another book entitled Creativity: Flow and the Psychology of Discovery and Invention
. It’s based on a series of interviews that came from his studies into the state of Flow. He interviewed many experts in creative fields and tried to determine what traits they shared, in order to see if he could pin-point a common list of attributes that may have contributed to their having become great at what they do.
One of the areas of Creativity deals with external factors. While much of creativity seems to be linked to genetics (intelligence in all its various forms, etc.), there seems to be a strong link between the environment in which a person finds themselves and how creative they are.
Csikszentmihalyi claims that environments themselves can inspire creativity in people. You need to be in the right place for you in order to be optimally effective at the task you’re trying to accomplish.
You need to be in the right place geographically. A big factor in creativity is synergizing two or more disparate issues to create something better. In order for this to occur, you need to first be exposed to novel stimulations. Stimuli are not evenly distributed over the surface of this planet. In general, you will run into more unique situations, people, and things while in New York than somewhere in South Dakota. Not because New York is better, but because there are just more situations, people and things in general.
Secondly, you need to be in an environment of your own creation. It can be as small as hanging a picture or putting a plant in your cubicle at work, but you need to do something to make your environment work for you. Not everyone is going to like plants in their cubicles, but you get the idea, right? Do something to make your space feel like your space.
You have to figure out what brings out the creativity in you through trial and error. Once you’ve found that, figure out a way to make it portable. Find a way to transfer that feeling to wherever you go. You should feel at home the same way you feel at work from an environmental standpoint. Don’t allow one place or another where you spend large amounts of time to limit your ability to think and act creatively.
Essentially, what we need to do in order to create is to find the place where we feel more “ourselves” than anywhere else. It’s not going to be the same for everyone, but in order to ensure that you do everything you do to the best of your abilities, you need to zero in on that feeling.
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