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As I’ve mentioned previously, I spent the majority of my career as a corporate financial analyst. On any given day, that could mean very different things. While having the job title of “Financial Analyst”, I’ve had duties ranging from performing journal entries to reconcile expense accounts to doing due diligence on potential M&A projects. The common thread that ran through it all, however, was that I hated it.

So, when given the opportunity to move out of the finance realm and into a more operations-oriented position as a Supply Chain Manager, I jumped at it. It wasn’t exactly what I wanted to do, but it was better than being a spreadsheet jockey.

What I really wanted to do was work in a cross-cultural environment, specifically in Asia. I have an MBA in international management from the US’s finest school for that particular sub-discipline. When I was in the military, I was trained as a Chinese Mandarin linguist. Everything I’d done in my adult life over the past decade or so has been geared toward working outside of the US. I wanted a position working directly with my company’s Mandarin-speaking suppliers and contractors, with an eye toward an eventual expat assignment in China, so that I could improve on my language ability and learn the ins and outs of working in Asia.

Unfortunately, that hasn’t panned out. Every job that I’ve pursued with my current employer has been accompanied by vague discussions of the potential to meet these goals, but they’ve never panned out. It’s been frustrating, especially since I’ve worked so hard to become uniquely qualified to do this kind of work.

A few months ago, the business unit I work in was undergoing a reorganization. Due to some shuffling of personnel at the top, I was slated to move from one group to another. My new boss wanted to sit down with me and discuss the organizational structure he envisioned and show me where he saw me fitting into it.

As we talked, I looked through the organization that he had proposed, and I noticed something that irritated me. In this organization was a proposed position for a “Subcontractor Relationship Manager”, dealing with our current group of subcons (located in Asia) on all business-related issues.

As he was explaining his vision for the organization, I cut him off.

“I don’t want to be rude,” I said,”but I want the Subcon Manager position”. He looked at me, puzzled.

I asked him, “Did you know that I speak Mandarin?”. He didn’t.

“Were you aware that I have an MBA in international management, focusing on dealing with business issues in a cross-cultural environment?”. He wasn’t.

The first thing that ran through my head was, “How many people do I have to tell about this stuff before someone actually listens?”. It’s become a running joke with the folks in my business unit: any time I’m introduced to someone new in the presence of some of my colleagues, they’ll say, “Did you know he speaks Mandarin?”. I tell EVERYONE at any relevant time what skills I have and try to see how I can use my abilities to help them do their job better.

I presented my new boss with an electronic copy of my resume, as well as some talking points as to why I’d be the most logical choice for this position. I knew he’d have to discuss with our general manager to get the transition approved, because my old position would need to be backfilled. I wanted him well-armed when this discussion happened.

A couple weeks later, I was informed I’d gotten the job.

So, what did I take away from this?

First, you’re often going to need help getting what you want. If you want something, keep telling people in a position to get it for you. Sometimes you can get what you want on your own. But, many times it pays to have people in your corner.

Second, don’t assume that everyone knows what you want, no matter how many times you’ve mentioned it before. It may be embarrassing at times, but the squeaky wheel gets the grease. No one is as concerned about your goals as you are, so you need to advocate for yourself.

Finally, do a good job even if the position you’re in isn’t ideal. I wouldn’t have had the chance to get this new position if I hadn’t excelled in the ones I’d had previously. I’ve always tried to, at the very least, provide more than was expected of me. Work toward doing the best you can at all times. You won’t always get there, but you’ll be happy at the unintended consequences.

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Ed. Note – This post is written directly to me.  For every finger pointing at you, the reader, there are three pointed back at what has two thumbs and makes the same mistakes (“this guy!”).  Don’t get your feelings hurt ’cause I called you a doofus later on in the post.  I’m really calling myself that.  Okay?  Okay.  On with the rant…

I see junk like this post title all over the place on the “self-help”, “productivity”, “Zen-whatever” blogs that I’m (unfortunately) lumped in with as a personal development blogger.  Look, if you want to become an early riser, why do you need 5 days to do it?  Just set your alarm earlier the next day, and get up when it goes off.  IT’S NOT ROCKET SCIENCE, PEOPLE.

The problem is two-fold, as I see it.

First, people are weak.  We need to ssssssslllllllooooooowwwwwwlllllllyyyyy ease into a new frame of mind.  Why?  Just because bad habits supposedly take a long time to break?  They sure don’t take a long time to create.  You just make bad decision after bad decision until you’re to the point where you have no control over your actions.  “I’m a slave to my habits!” you say, then you throw up your hands and give up.

That’s crap.

Look:  everything you do, whether habitual or not, is a result of a choice that you’ve made, consistently and over time.  If you continue to make the same bad decision, it becomes easier to do.

You know how to stop?  Quit making that decision, moron!

Before it becomes a habit, you have to make a decision to do it EVERY SINGLE TIME.  Now, maybe the number of times to create a black tar heroin habit is less than picking your nose and wiping it on the bottom of a chair (you know you’ve done it), but you still made a choice at least once in every instance.

So own that sucker.  BE INTENTIONAL!  You made the mess by making choices; you can turn it around just as fast by making better choices.  You don’t need five days, or five years, or whatever.  Start doing it differently RIGHT NOW.

Of course, the resultant circumstances of your bad habits may not go away immediately.  If you’ve got a habit of sleeping till noon, you’re gonna feel tired when you set the clock for seven and get out of bed.  That’s life.  Don’t worry, it gets easier.  Just start doing it.

The second problem with these lame articles is “personal development” for its own sake.  Why is it assumed that “being an early riser” has intrinsically more reward for a person than does sleeping late?  Just because that’s the mold we’re supposed to fit in?  Because you might miss work or something?

If you’re doing something not to better yourself, but simply for the purpose of conforming (or “this is what Lifehackamabob.com [note:  not a real site... I don't think] said I needed to do”), then it’s not personal development.  It’s masochism.  You need to stop doing it, because the rewards don’t add up.

Consider the choices you’ve made and the habits you’ve developed.  What’s the TCO (Total Cost of Ownership)?  What do you get out of these habits, and what would you otherwise have if you didn’t have the habits?  If the cost isn’t that big of a deal (so you don’t get to see the sunrise… so what?), then don’t worry about it.  You’ve probably got enough habits that, if changed, would represent a gain in your life.

Don’t sweat the stuff that other people try to push on you as “lifehacks”, be they GTD, waking up early, polyphasic sleep, raw-food veganism or polyamory (all things I’ve seen recommended on “self-help” sites at one time or another).  Fix what needs to be fixed according to YOUR assessment of your life.

Whew… I feel better.

Photo “sleepy stash” courtesy: corrieb

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